Triumph and Beauty

Triumph and Beauty… these are the words that come to me when I think of the aspirations of our masculine and feminine side.

Each of us contains both masculine and feminine energies. In truth, we are neither, these are human terms to help us understand things in separateness but it serves us to look at things individually to help us get to know pieces of ourselves. And take note this has absolutely nothing to do with gender. These are energies.

I was thinking about this because recently I have been focusing on overcoming myself with harder physical exercise. I have been inspired by a book by a former Navy Seal and Ultramarathoner (among many other things), David Goggins. He is also a very intense instagrammer telling you to get past yourself while hanging from a one armed pull up or something like that. This figure is certainly not someone I would say I am similar to. Behind my cups of tea, and floral patterned dresses and curtains, I am NOT a navy seal at heart but never the less, a part of me, my masculine side is in fact a warrior seeking to triumph over my limits.

Most of the content I consume is about softness and creativity and spirituality but when I lean to far in to this I can feel like I am limited to my emotions, my body, my mood etc. My feminine needs to let my masculine take over and find a way to triumph.

As I did this I started to feel more possibility, I started to feel like the goals I hoped to one day achieve were actually just mine for the taking, if I dared to show up for them. (This has always been true, but everything standing in the way seemed to dictate my reality more than I cared to admit).

I was waiting for divine timing to make things happen but what if the divine is waiting on me to take the leap and dive in?

So I focused on this mindset. But after a week or so, I started to feel tired, quite sore too. I felt life was merely mechanics to get efficient at. So was this a wrong truth or was it a part of a whole that needed something else?

I forgot that my feminine and creative side doesnt’ crave triumph but it is supported by it. She needs beauty. Beauty not vanity or surface level attractiveness but that feeling of life being some how elegantly and profoundly woven like a novel. Beauty stirs emotions out of the mundane operating level and makes meaning. It holds stillness and creation in one hand. Beauty delights us. It is our spirit enchanted.

So when I let time for that in I found my drive also returned. We are multifaceted beings, and masculine and feminine is only one small way which we can understand ourselves. But the dance between them is profoundly useful in feeling like we are our most whole.

Triumph and Beauty need each other and in some ways are each other. There is such beauty in moments of triumph and to seek beauty in a world that can feel chaotic is a triumph in and of itself.

Knowing that if we are out of balance in one we can not fully experience the other is very helpful.

So here is a little guide.

If you feel overwhelmed by life, like things are constantly bigger than you, and emotions run your life, its time for some triumph. Pick a task that feels bigger than you, set your mind that you will do it no matter what, and you will do it with all that you have in you. Your doubts can not finish that task with you, your pains and worries can not complete it, so even with those things nagging you do it and you do it now, not one day. You will triumph over yourself. You will feel empowered again.

But on the other side if you feel like your life is just points to hit, goals to make and tasks that you know you can do, but you’re not sure why you are doing them, you need beauty. This requires the courage to slow down, to be present, to take the time to describe the sunset and taste your tea. This requires you step away from doing and come in to being and from that being create, not to accomplish but to feel life force come from you and in to the world.

We need the masculine to create the safety within, to know that when life throws us a challenge we will rise above it, we need this to create otherwise all attempts at creating beauty are too fragile to attempt with full heart.

But we need the feminine to remind us why we do it, to fuel us with the spiritual life force that makes life a dance and not militant marching forward at all costs. We need awe to make it feel safe to overcome our limits, because otherwise we can not muster the courage to face the challenges ahead.

So I invite you to take a look at your life, and see where balance can be struck. Then with courage and heart make a change.

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In Triumphant Beauty

Avery